There's no such thing as a perfect companion. All that talk about finding and having the "perfect other half" is not real. It is not possible for one person to be perfect for another; two people can only work together towards becoming more and more perfect for each other, following each others' patterns and lifestyles, getting to know the other more and more and fitting inside as best as they can. However, it's not possible to be the absolutely "perfect" partner for another.

To be "perfect", one has to meet all the expectations of the other. And that is not humanly possible. It's not possible to meet someone else's expectations all the time; it'll just be too tiring. To do so, one would have to be able to read minds and adapt really quickly, which is obviously not possible. When two people are together, expectations will arise. Expecting the other to place one at the top of the priority list, expecting the other to always be there to accompany you, expecting the other to make you happy all the time. Expectations will lead to disappointments, definitely. And that alone already shatters the "perfection" one wishes to receive.

As I've said earlier, two people can only work together towards becoming more and more suited for each other. And that cannot be achieved by feelings alone. Feelings will eventually fade; what keeps two people together is the common goal they have, and the commitment which they're devoted to, to stay with each other and see each other through thick and thin, for life. Commitment is what pushes two people on to build a future together. When disappointments come, commitment is what pushes them on. And I think, that in itself is beautiful. That's what makes a relationship special and unique. And I believe that with time, and only with time, two people can become more suited for each other, eventually fitting into each other's life easily and seamlessly. That's how relationships last. That's how people can live happily ever after. It takes effort, but in the end, everything comes together if you aren't afraid to keep trying.

How beautiful it is, how wonderful for two people to be able to fit into each others' lives so seamlessly and effortlessly as time goes on. And I've never fully understood this until now. Why didn't I realise this until now? Why?

VOTD:
"Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you." James 4:7 (ESV)

There's no such thing as a perfect companion. All that talk about finding and having the "perfect other half" is not real. It is not possible for one person to be perfect for another; two people can only work together towards becoming more and more perfect for each other, following each others' patterns and lifestyles, getting to know the other more and more and fitting inside as best as they can. However, it's not possible to be the absolutely "perfect" partner for another.

To be "perfect", one has to meet all the expectations of the other. And that is not humanly possible. It's not possible to meet someone else's expectations all the time; it'll just be too tiring. To do so, one would have to be able to read minds and adapt really quickly, which is obviously not possible. When two people are together, expectations will arise. Expecting the other to place one at the top of the priority list, expecting the other to always be there to accompany you, expecting the other to make you happy all the time. Expectations will lead to disappointments, definitely. And that alone already shatters the "perfection" one wishes to receive.

As I've said earlier, two people can only work together towards becoming more and more suited for each other. And that cannot be achieved by feelings alone. Feelings will eventually fade; what keeps two people together is the common goal they have, and the commitment which they're devoted to, to stay with each other and see each other through thick and thin, for life. Commitment is what pushes two people on to build a future together. When disappointments come, commitment is what pushes them on. And I think, that in itself is beautiful. That's what makes a relationship special and unique. And I believe that with time, and only with time, two people can become more suited for each other, eventually fitting into each other's life easily and seamlessly. That's how relationships last. That's how people can live happily ever after. It takes effort, but in the end, everything comes together if you aren't afraid to keep trying.

How beautiful it is, how wonderful for two people to be able to fit into each others' lives so seamlessly and effortlessly as time goes on. And I've never fully understood this until now. Why didn't I realise this until now? Why?

VOTD:
"Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you." James 4:7 (ESV)